When Parenthood Feels Like a Mistake: Supporting a Partner Experiencing Postpartum Depression and Regret

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The journey into parenthood is often idealized, but for some, it brings unexpected struggles. This post describes a difficult situation where a husband, two years postpartum, expresses regret about having a child, struggles with the demands of toddlerhood, and exhibits symptoms of depression. The wife is seeking advice on how to navigate this crisis, questioning if it’s a phase and what steps to take. This article will explore the signs of postpartum depression (PPD) and adjustment difficulties in fathers, normalize the feelings of regret that can arise even when a child is loved, and offer practical advice for partners supporting someone through such a crisis. It will cover strategies such as encouraging professional help (therapy, medication), fostering open communication, setting realistic expectations about the transition to parenthood, addressing practical support needs, and the importance of self-care for the supporting partner. The aim is to provide resources and understanding for families facing similar challenges, emphasizing that seeking help is a sign of strength and that recovery is possible.

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