Navigating an Unplanned Pregnancy with an Existing Child and Long-Distance Relationship Challenges

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This post details a complex and emotionally charged situation for a mother who is newly pregnant with her second child. She is in a long-distance relationship with the father, who lives abroad, and he has his own mental health issues. She is also the mother of a 4-year-old from a previous, now-broken relationship. Adding to the stress, she is dealing with housing issues, self-employment, and recovering from long COVID. A previous experience with postpartum depression and PTSD after her first child weighs heavily on her. Although she initially booked an abortion, she finds herself unable to go through with it, despite the unplanned nature of the pregnancy and the instability in her life. The father, who visited from his country, expressed his heartbreak at the thought of abortion and has stated he will move to the UK. However, she is hesitant to rely on this promise due to the relationship’s past instability. She is also concerned about supporting her existing daughter. Her family is unsupportive, leaving her feeling isolated and overwhelmed. The post highlights the immense emotional burden of making a decision about an unplanned pregnancy while facing numerous personal and logistical challenges, and the need for support in such difficult circumstances.

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