Encouraging Independent Play in Toddlers: Strategies for 19-Month-Olds

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The user is seeking advice on how to encourage independent play in their 19-month-old. The toddler exhibits constant need for parental involvement, becoming fussy, whining, and climbing furniture when left to play alone. The parent tries to include the child in chores, but attention spans are short. They observe other toddlers of similar age playing independently and question if they are doing something wrong.

This article will address:

  1. Understanding Toddler Development: Acknowledge that 19 months is still young, but also that development varies. Explain that the need for proximity and engagement is normal, but building towards independence is possible.
  2. Creating a Suitable Environment: Suggestions for setting up play areas with age-appropriate, engaging toys that are easily accessible.
  3. Gradual Introduction to Independent Play:
    • Short, Successful Bursts: Starting with very brief periods (e.g., 1-2 minutes) of independent play while the parent is in the same room but not actively engaging.
    • The “Side-by-Side” Approach: Parents playing independently near the child, modeling independent engagement.
    • Creating Interest: Rotating toys to keep things novel, introducing new activities gradually.
  4. Managing Whining and Climbing:
    • Redirection: Gently redirecting climbing attempts to safe activities.
    • Setting Boundaries: Calmly acknowledging the whining but not immediately caving to demands for constant engagement.
    • Positive Reinforcement: Praising any moments of independent play, no matter how small.
  5. Involving Toddlers in Chores: Strategies for making simple chores more engaging for short periods, understanding their limited attention spans.
  6. The Role of Boredom: Discussing how brief periods of undirected time can foster creativity and problem-solving skills, but also the importance of a supportive environment.
  7. Parental Self-Care: Acknowledging the exhaustion of constant engagement and encouraging parents to find small ways to get a break.

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